Resources

There are quite a few myths about emotions that hold people back from getting better rather than just feeling better. In this article I take a look at them and how REBT provides healthier alternatives.

REBT is a structured, action-oriented therapy that provides people with real-world tools and frameworks to get better, rather than just feel better. In this article, I discuss the most powerful tool of them all: The ABC (and D and Es) of REBT.

While it would be great if life were fair, many people insist that it must be fair. This demand can create untold misery in one’s life. In this article I discuss why that is and how to avoid it.

In this article, I take a sceptical look at the power of positive thinking. Why is it so popular, yet also so seemingly powerless in solving emotional problems? Read on for an alternative perspective!

Most people do not collapse emotionally because something bad happened. They collapse because of how they interpret what happened to them. In this article I’ll show you how to build greater resilience using deal-with-it thinking.

Many people struggle to deal with failing, or fear failing. In this article I take you through a more helpful, reasonable approach to failure.

In this article we look at how to deal with impossible demands and Catch-22s created by others in a rational, sane way using REBT.

Trouble with family during this season is a common challenge. How can you keep an even keel when some people just want to fight or be mean? Or, perhaps you dread this time of year because it reminds you of loss. REBT has some ideas on how to cope.

In this article I explain REBT’s perspective on acceptance, what it is and what it’s not, and how accepting things we cannot control can help us change the things we can

It’s natural to want to know why we are challenged by life’s adversities. But in REBT, we make a clear distinction between helpful and not-so-helpful “Why’s?” In this article, I discuss the difference.

In this article we look at emotional hurt and how REBT can help you overcome such challenges.

In this article, we tackle the persistent myth that you can control other people (and that they can control you). It’s a source of misery that REBT has an answer for! Read on for more.

In this article we review 4 simple questions that can help you fight back anxiety, depression, self-loathing and anger.

In this article we explore why unconditional self-acceptance is healthier than chasing self-esteem and how we can grow by judging actions rather than whole selves.

Any psychotherapeutic method has a fair share of myths and misunderstandings attached to it and REBT is no exception. In this article, I tackle some of the big ones, and present the truth behind the myth.

Not all emotions are equally useful. Some assist us in taking constructive action, while others send us spiraling into unhelpful directions. In this article, I discuss the difference between helpful and harmful emotions.

Seeing a Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy (REBT) practitioner is a lot like seeing a personal trainer at the gym. Only, it’s not your muscles that will get a workout, but your mind! In this article, I discuss how that works and how it helps REBT clients improve.

Sometimes, life can feel like one darn thing after another. It’s relatively easy to get overly upset about this state of affairs, leading to further complications. In this article, I show you how to avoid letting everyday hassles get the better of you!

Anger makes life more difficult than it needs to be. If you struggle with anger and think that it’s an out-of-control force in your life, don’t despair! In this article, we tackle common misconceptions about anger and look at healthier alternatives.

In this article, I discuss the three core “musts” that people fall prey to, leading to many different emotional and life problems. Read on to see how you can conquer them!

Relationship anxieties plague many, especially the excessive and self-defeating seeking of constant validation. In this article, I show you how to effectively deal with your relationship anxiety.

Convincing ourselves that adversities and setbacks are awful creates more problems later. In this article, I discuss how to avoid awfulizing in favor of a more balanced, healthy approach.

In this article, we take a look at how to counter low frustration tolerance: One of the cornerstones of living a more balanced, contented life.

Self-downing is when we get caught in a cycle of self-doubt and hyper-critical, self-deprecating attitudes. Read on and see how to escape this unproductive cycle.

People let themselves in for great unhappiness when they demand perfection. Whether in themselves, other people, or the world in general, demanding perfection will create misery.

In this article I show why flexible attitudes to life’s ups and downs get you more of you want and less of what you don’t.

Focusing on the past too much can have negative side-effects, especially for your peace of mind. In this article, we look at how being more in the present can benefit you.

How can couples improve their communication and, just as importantly, their listening skills? Here are three practical tips that can help!

How to best deal with rude, obnoxious, and aggressive folks? Read this article to find out the most effective strategies!

In this article I explain how you can conquer unhelpful feelings of shame and embarrassment. By living a more shame-free existence, you can achieve your important life goals and experience greater contentment.

In this post, I explain how to cope with adversities and painful events by busting the myth that things can be “horrible”. REBT teaches that there are more helpful alternatives than such magical beliefs.

In this article, I offer some rational advice on how to stay calm and healthy around people who trouble you.